Ever notice how you internally respond around some people? Maybe you feel light or open around some, around others you may feel like you keep hitting some type of energetic wall. It almost feels like you've had the nice sucked right out of you. I believe we are all connected through universal energy, allowing us to "converse" at a deeper level. In today's world, until we return to a more positive "oneness", it is so important to be conscious of our own health and energy (physically, emotionally, spiritually). It is important to monitor the ways we connect with one another so we are not drained of our nice or absorbing others' negativity.
We need to set boundaries for ourselves and others. This may be either energetic intentions as well as being okay with saying the occasional "no" or "not yet" without feeling guilty about it. There are times people demand too much of your time, energy, and resources, leaving nothing for yourself. You may want to please others so much (maybe to gain their approval or attention), that you don't conserve your own energy. It is perfectly fine to set your limits at times by saying no--and you can do it in a nice way! Try something like "I'd love to help you, but right now I'm dealing with more than I can handle."
For many of us (myself included), this is when the guilt sets in. Thought like "I hope I didn't hurt their feelings," or "I hope I didn't sound mean" start creeping in. Shut the door on those thoughts! You deserve to love yourself, to honor yourself, by setting these boundaries. Some folks may get their feathers ruffled dealing with the new and improved you, but that's something they need to work through. Ultimately, they will respect you for it.
Naturally, it is wonderful to help people when you can, it makes us feel so great! BUT, if you pick up too many things on that to-do list, you are not respecting yourself. You know that saying "You can't pour from an empty cup." The only one that can fill that cup is you...and you're worth every drop!
